DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS AN ONGOING PATTERNED USE OF INTIMIDATION, COERCION, AND VIOLENCE TO ESTABLISH AND MAINTAIN CONTROL OVER AN INTIMATE PARTNER. THE CONTROL TACTICS CAN HAVE A WIDE RANGE OF SEVERITY AND COULD INCLUDE A "LOOK", VERBAL INSULTS, NAME-CALLING, THREATS OF HARM OR VIOLENCE, SHOVING, SLAPPING, FORCING YOU TO HAVE SEX, PULLING HAIR OR MORE SEVERE PHYSICAL ABUSE SUCH AS STRANGULATION.
Who is a Battered Woman?
She can be any woman. Domestic Violence occurs at all income levels, to all ages, all education levels and to married and single people. It can happen to you, your relatives, and your friends.
Who is to Blame for the abuse?
The batterer is always responsible for their actions. A batterer's own attitudes and behavior cause him to be controlling and violent.
Is the use of chemicals or alcohol to blame for the abuse?
The use of chemicals does not cause domestic violence. Violence can be more severe when there are chemicals or alcohol involved but the violence would occur regardless of the use of chemicals or alcohol.
There is help and support available for victims of domestic violence. Call our agency to get more information about domestic violence so that you can make informed decisions, to plan for your safety, and to find out the options that are available to you.
Does the person you love…..?
Answer each of these questions with one of the four responses:
3 = Frequently 2 = Sometimes 1 = Rarely 0 = Never
________ "Track" all of your time?
________ sulk or refuse to talk?
________ scream, insult, or swear at you?
________ Is he/she ever rude to your friends?
________ Make you feel like you are "walking on egg shells" when he/she is around?
________ Criticize such things as your cooking, clothes, or appearance?
________ Have moods that change radically, from very calm to very angry?
________ Constantly accuse you of being unfaithful?
________ Prevent you from leaving or seeing certain people?
________ Discourage your relationships with family and friends?
________ Prevent you from working or attending school?
________ Blame you for everything that goes wrong?
________ Control all money and force you to account for the money you spend?
________ Humiliate you in front of others?
________ Destroy personal property or sentimental items?
________ Threaten to hit or throw something at you?
________ Throw, hit, or kick something?
________ Threaten to hurt you or your children?
________ Hit, punch, slap, kick, or bite you or your children?
________ Use or threaten to use a weapon against you?
________ Drive recklessly to frighten you?
________ Push, carry, restrain, grab, or shove you?
________ Bite or scratch you?
________ Spit at you?
________ Have a criminal record for being violent with others?
________ Force you to have sex against your will?
Do you see more 3’s, 2’s, and 1’s than you are comfortable with? If you find yourself questioning whether or not you are in an unhealthy relationship, now is the time to stop by or call AADA for more information and options.
Advocates are available to provide assistance 24 hours per day, 7 days per week. Advocates provide support, advocacy, legal options, accompany you to any court proceedings, emergency housing, information and referral and most of all provide options when it feels like your options might be limited. All our assistance is free and everything is confidential.